Saving a marriage starts with getting back to basics – The structure of your relationship needs to change. That structure starts with leadership. Often when a marriage is on the rocks it’s due in large part to both spouses in competition for who’s “right” and who’s “in charge”. These competitions spark constant argument and debate, and often end up in divorce court simply because the two people are confused about the roles that tend to work best.
A team always has a leader. It’s the nature of most things to have leadership – someone who is ultimately responsible for the welfare of the group… whether it’s a CEO in a company, the doctor in an operating room, a teacher in a classroom, a general in an army, the alpha dog in the pack, or simply the president of the church social committee, someone is the leader virtually everywhere you look….except in marriages. For some odd reason, there, it seems people get distracted with a weak and ineffective “50-50” leadership (which never works) or often the wife gets control and becomes the de-facto leader because the husband just wants to avoid arguments. If the basic structure of a relationship is off, it makes everything more difficult. Continue Reading