So there you are, having a great time in your life, blessed with many gifts and success. There is beauty, wonder and abundance all around you.
Slowly you begin to take it for granted… you change your appreciation of it all. You forget from Whom you received all that you have. You begin to deviate from the things you were taught.
Then, the evil one senses an opportunity. He is always looking…waiting for his chance. When humans feel ungrateful or powerful that is his best time to strike.
Temptation presents itself.
And the rest, they say, is history.
Except we’re supposed to learn from this classic story. And here is the learning as it relates to your marriage:
Who was most at fault in that story? Adam.
Why? Because he was supposed to be the leader. He had an added responsibility. It was to him that God gave the reprimand. Adam was responsible for both of them… but instead he made it more important to make Eve happy and go along with her plan to have an apple. When he adopted her view and gave in to her wants, they both suffered, and so it is in many marriages today.
It’s also true that what may seem like a good idea in the moment may be disastrous in the long run, and trusting God’s will and plan for you is a good idea, regardless if you can understand it.
The man is supposed to lead, and that means ALWAYS acting in the best interest of the marriage and the family…even if someone doesn’t agree. He won’t always be right, of course, but in the long haul, he will be right much more than not, and he can be trusted to fix it if he did make a mistake. Men have a different, big picture perspective.
Many men today are caught in that same trap – letting go of leadership to make someone else happy. It didn’t work then and doesn’t now either.
“Because thou hast hearkened unto the voice of thy wife, and hast eaten of the tree, of which I commanded thee, saying, ‘Thou shalt not eat of it’, cursed is the ground for thy sake; in sorrow shalt thou eat of it all the days of thy life.”