The first secret is, there aren’t any secrets. There is dedication to a cause, some good planning, and taking action toward the goal, but no secrets. Perhaps we could say it’s a state of mind more than anything else.
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times – always with the same person.” – Mignon McLaughlin
That state of mind would be a great way to save your marriage from divorce, wouldn’t it? There aren’t many “marriage training skills” that could produce a better result than a state of mind like that. So what did you do when you fell in love the first time? Did you disagree a lot, fight over every little thing, notice all the things you didn’t like about them and complain about the past? No, probably not. Instead, you were focused on what you liked about them, what the future holds in store and you enjoyed the excitement of getting to know them better. Appreciating who they are and how they think
Admiring their traits. Minimizing their “imperfections”. So to fall in love over and over, you just need to do what you did in the very beginning. Focus on what you love about the other person. Your actions will change your feelings… but it doesn’t work the other way around. Being “in love” is a state you can create all on your own.